Make Your Partner a High Priority

There are many separate components involved in having and enjoying an active sex life.  We consider communication with your partner a critical component in improving your level of intimacy.  Discussion regarding physical issues as well as the feelings of both partners can bring you both an added closeness and intimacy level.  Being able to converse comfortably about your own sexual feelings will open the door for your partner to share as well.

Many of us were raised with the notion that sex is a taboo subject.  Unfortunately, that sometimes makes for a one-sided conversation.

Does Your Partner Get Anxious Discussing Your Sex Life?

If embarrassment over physical issues is causing you to withdraw from your partner, it is time to re-think your plan.

As a woman ages, vaginal looseness or a feeling of vaginal laxity can be one big reason she is reluctant to discuss physical issues.  Whether this problem is due to the natural aging process or multiple childbirths or menopausal issues, retreating from sex entirely happens too many times. Rather than communicating with your partner that there is a problem that takes away from your enjoyment in the sexual department of your relationship, we retreat.

Too many times, closing rather opening the door for discussion regarding the most intimate part of our lives will spill over into other aspects of our relationship.

Remember, There are Two People Involved Here 

Men who are on multiple medications for their general health can unfortunately experience a decline in sexual function, causing self-confidence issues and performance anxiety. 

Performance anxiety exists in any relationship.  What most couples do not realize is that sometimes that anxiety makes you reluctant to suggest a sexual change that could enhance your relationship!

As we age, our sexual needs and wants change as well.  Having a realistic idea of those needs and wants can change the dynamics of your relationship in a positive direction.

Finding the time to ask the RIGHT questions, as well as LISTENING to your partner’s answers will help you when deciding if changes are required in the lovemaking department and if so, what those changes will be.

According to an article from the National Institute on Aging (NIA), National Institutes of Health (NIH) and Human Services, in an article entitled  “SEXUALITY IN LATER LIFE”,

“…Older couples face the same daily stresses that affect people of any age.  They may also have the added concerns of age, illness, retirement, and other lifestyle changes, all of which may lead to sexual difficulties.  Try not to blame yourself or your partner.  You may find it helpful to talk to a therapist.  Some therapists have special training with sexual problems.  If your male partner is troubled by ED or your female partner seems less interested in sex, don’t assume he or she is no longer interested in you or in sex.  Many of the things that cause these problems can be helped”.




This article elaborates on how physical problems can change your sex life as we age.  It does point out that communication with each other can help define how you deal with these intimate issues.