Either this week or next, it will probably occur to you that among all of your other duties and responsibilities, it is time to start planning and begin implementation of your plan for Valentine’s Day. 

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For many, this is a dreaded and commercialized holiday that has no meaning anymore.  After all, we just had huge expenses for the holiday season and here is another one!

No spouse wants to feel like the only reason her partner is doing anything for Valentine’s Day is because it's expected, "the norm" or, it's what their friends are doing for their spouses.

Although Valentine’s Day seems like a competition, there are so many things you can do that are special to let your love know just how much you love and appreciate them.


Valentine’s Day can be an opportunity to enjoy each other in a more meaningful way.  The best gifts are the ones that show the thoughtfulness and intentions of your spouse or significant other.  True gifts from the heart should be not be measured by price.

When you are busy with your day-to-day activities, do you ever stop to think of something you could do for your spouse to improve your lives AND your relationship? The satisfaction derived from the small things you do improve your health, relationship, as well as your overall sexual relationship. That is a nice bonus!

The only judgment we should make is toward our own behavior. 

How hard are you trying? When was the last time you did something special for your spouse without any prompting whatsoever? And most importantly, expecting nothing in return for your kind gesture.

According to Fact Retriever, Americans spend around $277 million on Valentine’s cards each year, second only to Christmas.

This is a perfect chance to create your own card. Point out all the little things that you notice that your spouse does for you that you rarely ever acknowledge.  Let your partner know these things are appreciated.  Remember all the reasons you fell in love,to begin with. 

If your self-evaluation points out some areas that you feel you have neglected, there is no better time to use this holiday to rekindle your relationship.  Improving one facet will impact other parts of your life in an overall positive manner.

Be inventive.  Be spontaneous.  More importantly, be willing to make a special effort to plan a DIFFERENT and memorable Valentine’s Day.

According to Debra K. Fileta, M.A., LPC in her article "10 Simple Date Night Ideas You'll Want To Try ASAP," she suggests several easy, no cost ideas that can help partners connect in a very busy society, such as:

“If you’re short on time, money, babysitters, energy, or what-have-you, be deliberate about carving out some time to connect in special ways.”

And our personal favorite, Date Night #4: The More You Know - 20 Question Jar:

“There’s so much to learn about one another, no matter how long you’ve been married.  Write out a list of questions to ask each other (some serious, some fun), cut them out, put them in a jar and take turns drawing a question to answer”

Debra Fileta is a Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of True Love Dates: Your Indispensable Guide to Finding the Love of Your Life, where she writes candidly about dating, relationships, and how to find true love. Her newest relationship book is set to be released in the Summer of 2018! You may also recognize her voice from her 200+ articles at Relevant Magazine, Crosswalk.com, and all over the web! She’s the creator of this True Love Dates Blog, reaching over 4 million people with the message that healthy people make healthy relationships!  Connect with her on Facebook or Twitter or book a session with her today!

Many thanks to Truelovedates.com for providing such an entertaining blog, along with valuable information on so many diverse topics.  Ms. Fileta not only presents certain problems/issues, she always provides a path to solutions available.  Ms. Fileta also has a new book entitled “Choosing Marriage (https://amzn.to/2rpVTky), which is all about the importance of the concept of connecting”.  We are looking forward to reading it.

We have also listed  5 more lovely facts about Valentine’s Day presented by Fact Retriever below. They graciously allowed use of several items off their list:

  • “Lace is often used on Valentine’s decorations.  The word “lace” comes from the Latin laques, meaning to “to snare or net”, as in to catch a person’s heart.”
  • “A True Love Knot, or Endless Knot of Love, was a very popular Valentine in England and the U.S. in the seventeenth century.  As their name implies, these Valentines were drawn as a knot and could be read from any line and still make sense.” 
  • “A kiss on Valentine’s Day is considered to bring good luck all year.”
  • “On Valentine’s Day, nearly 189 million stems of roses are sold in the U.S.”
  • “The most popular flower on Valentine’s Day is a single red rose surrounded with baby’s breath.  The red rose was the flower of Venus, the Roman goddess of love.”

Check out Fact Reader's website for even more interesting facts like these by clicking here.

Change the ordinary to extraordinary.  Try to remember that the best gifts we give and receive are those that are the most thoughtful.  Those treasures cost nothing but time. 

We would love to hear about your creative ideas and the responses received after Valentine’s Day this year Submit your ideas to us by clicking here and you might see them published in our Le Snuggle Sunday series.love

If you do take the step forward to try something new and out of character, be prepared for shock from your spouse or significant other.  The rewards you will receive for thinking outside of the box will be a long-term gain for your relationship.